Orgasmic Birth: Healing Sexual Guilt

January 19th, 2012 // Birth

I remember first hearing the term ‘Orgasmic Birth‘ long before I became certified as a Birth Doula. Childbirth still in my long term future, it certainly peaked my interest as something that sure seemed like a better experience than the pain typically associated with birth we are exposed to in modern media.

I immediately started sharing this idea with plenty of my single friends as if it was the newest and absolute best invention since the condom and was surprised to be responded not only with disgust but embarrassment. “Ew, I would be so grossed out if I found out my mom had an orgasm when she was in labor with me!” My response was something along the lines of “but its okay for women to suffer?”. If it is any consolation, I did have a nice young gentleman profess his love for me during one of these conversations.

The 2nd Chakra is the most damaged energy center in our bodies collectively at this point in humanity’s history. It is related to our sexuality, ability to fee pleasure and experience joy. Folks, the number one reason why we are here is because a couple of people, namely your parents (so gross, right?) had sex. The love they felt for each other was enough of a spark to create the miracle that is you. Minus all the fancy modern technology such as In Vitro fertilization, creation has a purely sexual nature to it. And don’t forget that the majority of us still arrive on this planet through the incredible vaginal canal. When a couple is bonded during the birth process and the mother allows herself to experience the love they share as a couple, it will most certainly ease the pain of labor.

We are all sexual beings. It is our nature and what created us. Our own guilt around sex is what would limit the flow in our relationships, lives and potentially even our births. It has been hanging around in the collective consciousness for sometime now and its about time we redeemed our innocence in this area. It would free us to allow more joy and creativity into our lives. Whether or not we experience an orgasm at birth, embracing our sexual nature could help us surrender a bit more to the mysterious and powerful nature of birth.

Love well,
Sara
xo

The Shadow of Social Responsibility

January 14th, 2012 // Business, Entrepreneurship, Feminine-ist

Since graduating with a degree in fashion design in 2005, I have witnessed the green movement become not only a trend but normalized, even expected. As Gen X & Y continue to seek deeper meaning in their lives by giving back to better the world, Corporate Social Responsibility has also become, to our relief, a common theme. Although, I have discovered it can become a bit too much of a marketing strategy than plain goodwill.

No one gives anything away for free anymore and that’s fair enough. With so much to give, business’ unfortunately often seek to get something for what they gift and I’m referring to a more than a valid tax receipt. Sure, we all like to share with our customers that we give back, that we care about the world at large and that their choice in our product or service is adding to the collective good. But when the ‘Why?’ becomes predominantly ‘This will make us look good and result in more sales etc.’ over ‘Wow, this project/organization/group really moves me and I feel inspired to help’ we are lying to our customers and sadly ourselves. Energetically, rather than give we have slipped back into that uncomfortable and unattractive giving to get mentality. Oops!

It is no reason to beat ourselves up or hop on the guilt train especially because that is probably what got us into this mess in the first place. This is our opportunity to self correct, if we truly do have those good intentions we keep speaking of (and I do believe in the heart of all hearts we do care, we want to do good and act well). We remember that nothing outside of us, or our business is going to fulfill us or make our company more successful. It is time for the business model to evolve from the exaggerated masculine we have been struggling with and integrate the receptive qualities of the feminine, turning our attentions towards the Creator for the fulfillment of our needs so that we can truly feel how abundant we are and overflow in giving from this place.

Love well, folks!
Happy New Year, welcome to the dawning of the golden age!

Queen of Flowers

July 14th, 2011 // Birth, Feminine-ist, Garden, Love

Roses are in full bloom and have been brightening my days despite Vancouver’s cloudy skies. I was reminded of a great metaphor Gloria Lemay taught me about the rose and birth. When a rose is in full bloom, its diameter is ten centimeters, the same as a woman’s cervix when she is fully dilated. We would never want to force the process of a rose blooming so why do we so often force the progress a woman in labor?

Rose is the highest vibrational flower, next to the lotus and I have noticed that I have been using wild rose oil a lot. I knew that it resonates with the frequency of unconditional love and the Heart Chakra. When I did more research I was amazed at the history of its use and many healing properties including a cleansing and toning effect on the uterus and is helpful for menopausal symptoms. It is also used in the treatment of infertility and frigidity in women and to increase sperm count in men. *Source

On the subject of fertility & sexuality, check out this amazing interview with a Tantric Master I have been following lately. FYI: his website is very bold. It comes full circle as birth is a sexual experience.

Love,
Sara
xoxo

Hope, Change and New Birth for All

May 26th, 2011 // Love, Oneness, Spirit

I would like to share some inspiring videos I watched recently. There is so much hope for humanity and the earth. We are all going through our own rebirth. Lets choose to make it graceful.

Love well,
Sara
xoxo

Leading with Heart

May 12th, 2011 // Love

Spring has finally sprung in Vancouver. I’m feeling ready for change and some sprouting in both my garden and life after a long winter of looking within. I experienced a lot of success launching into my business as a full time healer last spring. In the fall, I became terrified of the next step and got caught in the dead zone where I felt stuck all winter. Throughout this process, I faced self concepts of inadequacy, doubt, guilt, self-attack and fear. “How can I help people heal? I still have so much of my own healing to do.” This level of self-attack was running so strongly in my subconscious that it seemed real to me.

After peeling back layer after layer of these stories all I needed to do was surrender to my life purpose which lay hidden underneath. All of these traps in my mind were actual defenses from me living my purpose, healing myself, helping others heal and being a leader. This is a new way. Walking through to the other side and choosing commitment, choosing to be in service and being in service to spirit is exactly the way I will help others through. I get from experience how my vulnerability is the way I will lead people. A true heart connection in our human being-ness will open the space for miracles in health.

Love,
Sara

Ode to My Mother

May 06th, 2011 // Feminine-ist, Love

*a polaroid taken of my mom around age 16. What a babe.

This weekend is Mother’s Day so I feel inspired to write about my mother. She has been one of my greatest teachers on my healing path.

I mention in my bio that my mom experienced Ulcerative Colitis. She was first diagnosed with this in her mid-twenties, before I was even a thought in her mind. She went through plenty of awful treatments and operations well into my own life and her day to day life is still impacted although she still looks and acts twenty years younger.

In my early twenties, I experienced digestive challenges that would potentially take me down a similar path but I’m thankful it was the 21st century and not the mid 70’s. Alternative healing methods were more common and generally accepted. I am blessed to always have had great friends and guidance to help me. It wasn’t until I started feeling the emotion I had stored in my gut while going through a two week Pancha Karma in Northern India that I started healing and changing my digestive problems.

Since then I have become passionate about uncovering what lies underneath the surface of our physical challenges and helping myself and others through to the gifts and healing available on the other side of the emotion. When practicing the Lifeline Technique, if the Earth Element comes up, I know we will be healing a new level of our relationship with our moms. The current state of the earth is a pretty good reflection of how we are doing with our own mothers. This is when we get pretty deep and look at our relationship to the feminine and how much we have been making our mothers wrong. After years of healing my digestive challenges my next big layer of healing was the grievance I had with my mom for not doing that healing work herself and accepting that she was doing the very best she knew how. If she had that awareness, she would have given it to me. In the really big picture, I have got to thank and bless her for what she went through, out of her experience, I have found many gifts that will continue to help many women and all of us, reclaim our true feminine nature.

Love and Jai Ma,
Sara
xoxo

Becoming Wholehearted

April 15th, 2011 // Love, Oneness

There are so many people and things that are easy to love; sleeping babies, puppy dogs, ice cream, sunny days…. we all have that person, family member and even politician we would never put next to the word love, let alone like in a sentence. The truth is, this person is showing us a place where we have been unable to love a very hidden, unconscious part of ourselves. Our shadow. When we get to thinking about it, this person is actually doing us a huge favor, they are helping us move closer to our own wholeness. If a person rubs us the wrong way, potentially even to the point of repulsion, we have the remedy for them, there are no mistakes. We have been called to open and expand our hearts to love a place we would rather deny. When we join these shadowy places and people, we all get the benefit.

Today, do your very best to open your heart and feel any resistance that prevents you from loving your shadow. It could be Stephan Harper, the rain (especially if you live in Vancouver), a customer or even your partner or best friend.

Love well,
Sara
xoxo

Letting Go

January 19th, 2011 // Lifeline Technique

Tomorrow, Dr. Darren Weissman (developer of the Lifeline Technique) will be speaking about Letting Go on his Hay House Radio show, The Heart of the Matter. I felt this is a great opportunity to share as Letting Go has been one of the most important healing principles on my own journey.

Letting go heals holding on which is a subconscious protection reflex designed to avoid letting go of the past, returning to the present and taking the next step in life. In my own experience, in places where I was holding on and did not yet have the awareness or guidance to feel whatever emotion I was holding on to, my body began to express this holding on. In the ‘about’ section of my website, I mentioned that my mother experienced Ulcerative Colitis and in my early twenties I began having similar symptoms, especially with digestion. Other symptoms included weight gain and I later discovered with the Lifeline TechniqueTM, that the Biochemistry of my body was holding on to all of this emotion. I also learned in my experiences with Lifeline Technique sessions and in my process of becoming a Lifeline practitioner that my body was doing this to communicate with me about this holding on, rather than victimize me. Nature is quite literal and simple in her metaphors.

The process of Letting Go can look different for everyone. You can begin to feel the emotion associated with the holding on, (anger, fear, grief etc) or give it over to your higher mind. Meditation on sensations in the body and sounds in your environment are good practices to come back to the moment.

Feeling stressed and overwhelmed are good signs that we may be resisting the letting go process where we feel light and free. Letting go is an on going process, as we move at high speed into 2011 we let go on 2010. Each day and moment are opportunities. Maybe its a past relationship, chronic pain or fear of all of that emotion we might feel as we begin to let go. Letting go will certainly revitalize you with more flow and ease in taking the next step. It restores your attractiveness so that which you have been holding on to can come to you in a new and more graceful way.

Love well,
Sara

Silver smithy!

January 10th, 2011 // Art, Craft, Fashion, Vancouver

Happy New Year!

So, I know the holidays are over but I believe New Year’s is a great time to continue with wish lists. I am always on the hunt for beautifully created, hand crafted things and I wanted to share a recent discovery. Last fall, I met the very talented and super sweet, Jeanie Andronyk whose silver jewelry is all made by hand via traditional silver smith techniques=one of a kind.

Check out her Etsy Shop or about town at all sorts of markets!

xoxo
S